I’ve had an extreme parenting journey, brought on by an extremely challenging child, who has pushed me far beyond my limits, and tested more boundaries than I thought existed. It’s been unbelievably tough. Because of this, I’ve read and researched … Continue reading
It’s my birthday today, so I decided it’d be a great day to launch my new website: Life Edit. It’s my new venture where I’ll explore and discuss my journey towards a simplified and decluttered life.
Why the shift? If you’ve followed this blog for any length of time, you will have noticed my
interest obsession with simplifying and decluttering; getting rid of everything in your life that shouldn’t be there, to discover your true self, and your true purpose on this planet. I think those are pretty important things, so I’d like a space that’s devoted to that.
I’ll continue to write on ihearthome, with a focus on home life, kids, family and parenting, so feel free to stick around. But Life Edit will be my main writing space, so I’d love you to jump on board and sign up if you’re interested in simplifying your life.
And for everyone who subscribes to Life Edit by email this week, I’ll put you in the draw to receive a free copy of “Organised Simplicity“, one of the books that spring boarded me into this journey towards simple living. And to anyone who lives in Auckland and signs up, I’ll offer a half price 3 hour professional organising consultation to kick start your simple living journey. So head here to check it out!
I’m sure many of you read Sheryl Sandberg’s gritty and authentic piece about grief last week.
Her “option B” analogy resonated with me.
While my journey has been vastly different to hers, the last 5 years of parenting have presented me with what have felt like impossible mountains to climb. Option B battles that I did not want to have to face.
The behaviour of one of my children has devastated our family environment. I’ve felt helpless, despairing, desperate, overwhelmed, alone, and in a situation way beyond my capacity.
We’ve seen child psychologists, family therapists, psychotherapists, naturopaths, parenting coaches, doctors, paediatricians and the rest. And none of them have had answers. None of them have offered a key to change.
And it’s felt beyond impossible.
Most of us can probably identify an option A we’re aiming for, in parenting, or another aspect of life (and I’m using “option A” here to refer to whatever we hold as the “ideal” life). For me, that’s a healthy, happy, functioning family. Not one fraught with tension, angst, and misery.
But for all of us, at some point, life presents us with an option B. It’s not what we planned for. It’s not what we hoped for. It’s not what we imagined.
I’ve been hanging on to hope for my option A. For a different path. A better path. But I haven’t been able to change the path I’m on. It’s an option B path. And I’ve come to realise that investing all my energy into trying to change the situation, just piles more angst onto the angst of the situation itself.
So slowly, slowly, I’ve been changing my approach. I’ve been investing more energy in doing option B well. I’m seeking to better appreciate what I do have, to be more mindful and grateful for the moments that are good, however tiny they may be. And I’m aiming to incorporate more things into my day that bring joy and relief. Little things. Like exercise, meditation, reading, time to myself, a bunch of fresh flowers, coffee with a friend. Things that bring me joy.
Because we only get one shot at this life. And while life doesn’t always offer us option A, in the words of Sheryl Sandberg, “let’s kick the shit out of option B.”
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I did it!!! My achievement of the year was finally completing these Tapestry Kits – it’s been on my to-do list for the last year. I’m more than a little deadline driven, so when a friend asked me to make … Continue reading
I’ve taken up knitting recently. It seems to have made a bit of a comeback in recent years, or is it just that I’m in my 30s now?! Anyway, even though it’s back in vogue, knitting is still pretty counter … Continue reading
There’s a little house at the park near where I live, that I pass when I’m out walking. It’s the oldest surviving wooden house in Auckland, built in 1841. The rooms are set up as they would have been back in … Continue reading
Well hello there. I’ve been offline for a while. It’s been good actually. An unplanned, but welcome break from the digital world. The needs of the little people in my 3D world demanded my full attention, drained my resources, and … Continue reading
It’s been one of those weeks around here. So to focus on the positive (which always helps in such circumstances), here are a few of my current favourite things: Loving this cute doll pattern by Gingermelon on Etsy. Reminds me of the Madeline story, … Continue reading